I am sorry to hear about this Oyle. Cancer is not something I would wish upon anyone. My Father died of cancer and I was there with him till the end, and although it was hard on me, I believe it helped him.

My one piece of advice is the same as Prince Serendip's. Get more opinions. The U of M has a first rate Oncology unit, http://www.cancer.med.umich.edu/ and as corny as it sounds, I have heard good things about Cancer Treatment Centers of America . There is one in Philadelphia. http://www.cancercenter.com/about-us/our-hospitals.cfm.

My best wishes and thoughts are with you. Don't give up.

Oyle, we haven't met but I am sorry to hear of your news. I see some good advice in this thread. Don't give up. Try another doctor. Try an alternative therapy. You never know what the future may bring. Good luck to you.

I am really sorry.

My prayers will be there with you always.

I am saddened to hear of your problems, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this time.

Oyle-

I am so sorry to hear your news. From someone in England, may I say that I will offer a prayer for you.

This is devastating news. I will keep you in my prayers.

Let me start off by saying although I do not feel the pain you are going through, it pains me that you have received the news we as mortal beings knowingly or not, are so afraid of hearing. Time is catching up. Cancer is a word. Life is also a word. Both bring thoughts ranging so broadly it becomes something else entirely. Something we can not hide from. Something we all must face. But there is comfort, however small it is still there. Comfort that you do not have to travel the road alone. Others have been there and more shall follow in your footsteps. Stretch out your hands and see as I have seen. We are here to grasp back. To hold you when you feel as though you can not. Close your eyes and breath in those around you, their familiar fragrance. Feel their loving warmth. Live now in comfort that we are here... for you.


The links below are two short films by a young director in a situation not unlike your own. With the time he was given he challenged us to never take for granted that which we are given and to not only acknowledge it but relish in those gifts. It is my pleasure to share them with you.

DFK6498
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtjoG5zBRI8

Strike Zone
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCgVf4-1k6w&mode=related&search=

I shall end this post with one of my favorite quotes and leave my hand extended out... waiting.
CourterArt
Logan Courter

Quote from The Sheltering Sky
"Because we do not know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well, and yet everything happens only a certain number of times ... How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood ... that is so deeply a part of your being that you can't even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps 4 or 5 times more. Perhaps not even. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps 20. And yet it all seems limitless."

Dear Oyle,

You are in my prayers. Someone was talking of leg pain & I get it
terrible from nerve damage (neuropathy) + I could also have small
blood clots or DVT (Deep Vein Thrombosis)

Oh well, like I said, you are in my prayers each & every day.

Take Care & God Bless & keep us posted

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Warm Regards,
David (esacnitsuj)
EULAGree With Security

Y'know, I've got a friend that's an eternal optomist. I don't know where he gets it from, but he always seems to know the right thing to say. I emailed him about it, and you know what he told me via email reply? "When you think about it, we ALL have limited time".

Wow. That picked me up considerably. Mom just yelled up the stairs to me that my sister wants us to come over her place for a cookout on July 4th. We'll probably tell Mom about it then. There was never an issue about NOT telling Mom, I think it's just a matter (for my sister) about the right time to tell her. Mom's been really over-medicated by her two recent stays in the hospital; so much so that she's just been half-conscious, downstairs watching TV and falling asleep on her chair in the middle of the day. She also had problems with disorientation, not knowing the day of the week, and everything. She's better now, though. Maybe there's still a little bit of disorientation, but nowhere NEAR as bad as it was.

Watching Good Morning America on ABC this morning. Mom LOVES ABC, apparently, can't figure out why. They're talking about Joel Siegel, who just died from colon cancer. They said that it spread into one of his lungs (then, I THINK they said) a yearl later, it spread into his other lung. He just died this past weekend, I think. I started to feel bad for myself again, a little bit.

I have a friend that lives in Tucson. His sister and her husband and family still live here in town, I'm about 20 min from them. She called me this morning on my cell, left me a message that her brother in Tucson told her I needed help. She called me to have me call her back and tell her how she can help. I DO need to have a prescription refilled. It can't be called into the pharmacy because it's a narcotic. But the pharmacy over there at the hospital is such a hassle. You have to take a number and wait BEFORE you can submit your prescription. Then you have to wait for the prescription. They usually tell me the prescription will be about a half-hour, and it usually is.

I'm starting to get nervous. Will I even make it to retirement age? How long do I have? I'll be 51 the end of this August. How will I know when the time is near?

NOW I get an email from a job recruiter about a local job here in Beachwood, Oh., 15min from home. What to do??

All i can say is this sucks and make the most of what time you got left.
At an art forum i belong to a friend there went though this a few months ago. You could hear his pain but offer no hope. Any place you never been you might have enough strength to see?

i would not hold off too long telling your mother. She would rather suffer with you then not be told and you miss haveing a chance to be with her!!!!! yes she will suffer but not as much as not being told and finding out too late!!!
All i and do is wish you make the best with what you have left. and see you on the other side.

Oyle, I am very sorry to hear of your battle w/ Ca. Been there myself with a different type.
Plenty of good support and advice already given here. Add my best wishes also.
Hope you can prove the prognosis wrong.

Mike

Oyle, if you want the job and you have the energy and stamina to perform efficiently, take the job. You'll have income and you will have something to occupy your mind and body. This should relieve some of your anxiety. Discuss where you are medically with your interviewer or supervisor so there are no surprises.

I realize this is a highly subjective suggestion.

Hi Oyle,

That is really sad news, but you can choose to react to it positively by living life to the fullest and seeking support from friends, relatives, others in a similar position and us.

Just keep the faith. We are all pulling and praying for you!

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Negster22 - MS MVP - Consumer Security 2006-2008

Rotten news, Oyle. Several members have offered good advice. Don't stop seeking the best treatment available. Live life all the way. Let your family give you all the loving attention they can. It will help them even more than it helps you.